You don't post full-body pics in your online dating profile because you don't want guys to eliminate you based on your body type.
When you go out, you anxiously try to find a "flattering" outfit that slims your tummy and tames your thighs. Well, maybe you decide to just stay in for the night...then when you DO date, you're stressed about your heart being broken ..you keep attracting the same WRONG guys as if you've got a label on your forehead that says "emotionally unavailable men welcome! , what if he wants to have "sexy time" and you've got to be seen naked??!!! I've been a fat, plus-size woman for the past 20 years, fluctuating between sizes 16-24, and I've dated at every size and dealt with every body insecurity.
All through my teen years and 20s my only stabs at romance were when, in a pretty common pattern for shy awkward guys, I’d sometimes, with great effort, manage to confess my feelings for some friend or other (both guys and girls) and then be politely rejected.
Eventually, I internalized the notion that no one could ever want me, and I stopped trying.
Susan, Toronto Our coaching helped me feel ready to be successful in a relationship- and with Sophia’s help, I created that relationship!
The “Bro do you even lift” crew isn’t superior to the heroin-thin or the heavy guys because they subsist on chicken breasts and body dysmorphia.
The people telling you that there’s One True Way To Be a Man or Woman Or LGBTQ or what-have-you aren’t the guardians of the TRVTH.
Now I’m almost 30, and I’m sober, successful, a normal weight, relatively charming, etc.
It was a whole thing: a five-year program of self-improvement. I still don’t know what that means or how accurate it is (I’ve mostly been with men because it’s easier, but I’m mostly attracted to and want to be with women), but it is what I say to people.