This Q&A is continued from last week’s discussion with Emily.) Chapter four, “Sex, Chastity & The Biological Clock,” is a big one – it covers so many key issues for single women. People know their own personal strengths and sources of temptation way better than I do.You give clear-cut advice on physical parameters in a chaste relationship, and you write that “If you’re serious about embracing chastity, you have to become a bit of an old fuddy duddy.” You spell out situations to avoid: Drinking too much at parties, on dates, or during events out; talking too long and too late in the car; talking too long and too late anywhere; sleepovers; laying down together; kissing laying down; kissing sitting down; maybe even kissing standing up; not to mention kissing with any portion of your clothing removed. I’m just giving a list of situations that can become – or are – minefields for a couple trying to date chastely.It's essential to openly communicate with your date while displaying the correct Catholic code of conduct to make a good impression.While you lean on the teachings of the Church for guidance, keep honesty and genuine concern for your date as a priority.When one talks about boyfriends or girlfriends in our current age, however, too often the emphasis is on the "boy" or "girl" rather than the "friend." I often witness relationships fail because the couple is romantically involved before they get the chance to know one another.What do I suggest to teenagers as a substitute for dating?
As the youngest canon lawyer in North America, I am less than a decade removed from my teenage years, and I also served as a canonical adviser to various adolescent-orientated Catholic apostolates.Don't wait for marriage Start searching for your spouse early, advises John Van Epp, but many readers have their own dating advice in this Sounding Board survey. Christina Capecchi reports on how the Internet is changing the way we find love. Tell us about your plans for Valentine’s Day, describe what love means to you as a Catholic, or simply share your favorite quote about love.You can leave a comment below or e-mail us a reflection for a guest blog post.If you’re running from it, you’ve already seen it, and its power to stop you dead in your tracks is immense. If you don’t buy or bake any, you’re not going to blow your diet. If you don’t put yourself in situations that can easily lead to sins against chastity, you’re going to have an awful hard time sinning against chastity. The book just came out a few weeks ago, so thus far no one has rolled their eyes to my face.Knowing the right etiquette for courting within the Catholic faith can make the difference between a date that is a dud and one that leads to many more.