Sometimes you feel like the divorce might be a mistake and other times you feel like you’ve never viewed life from a clearer perspective — you’ve never been stronger.
Let’s say you’ve spent the past year writing earnestly about your separation and eventual divorce from your husband. You vacillate between friendship and formality and a few slip-ups wherein you become lovers, but you eventually settle into a nice, friendly relationship with occasional flirting.
You chronicled your tumultuous separation that eventually mellowed into a strange period wherein you hung out quite a bit in some kind of confused limbo. You learn he’s talking to other women, you talk to other men.
What would happen if you just accept that you feel love for him, AND that the relationship has run its course?
Can you find peace in acknowledging both sides simultaneously?
Don’t jump right back into your old ways This is someone you have been intimate with in the past, and it may be tempting to have your second date on the couch binge watching But it’s worth it to establish a new relationship pattern rather than rely on the intimacy you already have. Your new “old” relationship will only benefit from it.We would find ways to continue spending time with each other without delving into the potentially disastrous territory of admitting that maybe, just there were some residual romantic feelings worth exploring. There can be weird hang-ups about your past relationship, concerned friends who don’t approve, and a myriad of other things that can lead to a sad sizzle-out of a potentially fantastic rekindled relationship.Months later, after one of these prolonged hang outs, we finally addressed the elephant in the room and started dating again. If you are considering seriously dating an ex, here are some things to keep in mind. Dating an ex has its perks: you know what side of the bed they prefer, their favorite pump up music, and all of the little quirks and habits that made you fall for them in the first place.Examine the expectations you've placed on yourself.Are you expecting to neutralize all positive feelings you have towards your ex?